Dating

Where to Meet Women During the Day

Approaching, meeting, and conversing with new women during the day is, for some cruel reason, extremely difficult for the majority of single men. Often referred to as “Day Game”, it is a necessary artistry that must be practised and perfected by the modern male in order to connect with quality women.

Typical dating advice columns will offer ridiculous locations and events to visit: dancing lessons, cooking classes, yoga, etc. It shouldn’t be necessary to commit to a program unless you’re actually interested in learning something new. Do not join these seminars or teachings in an attempt to meet new women.

A routine that I follow once every week or two provides me with enough opportunity to meet great new girls while performing daily errands.

Gas Station

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I start my routine by doing what we all have to do: get gasoline. When I drive into the station, I quickly check the pumps for attractive women.

If there is a young lady that has caught my eye, I will park at one of the pumps near her. If possible, I will strike up conversation. If conversation cannot be opened up, I will finish pumping my gas when she does so I can walk into the building with her or in front of her. This gives me the opportunity to open the door for her – force eye contact, deliver your sly smile, and respond to her appropriately when she comments about opening the door.

On most occasions, there are no women that catch my eye (the particular city I live has a low population of attractive women). I ensure a pleasant visit to the gas station by only going to ones that employ good looking staff, with whom I build positive rapport with. I’ve gone on some amazing dates with gas station attendants and enjoy practising my seduction skills with them.

Cost of gas = $10

Grocery Store

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The first thing I do when I enter the grocery store is head to the floral department. Slowly, calmly, I select my arrangement with the help of a florist. A few notes about selecting flowers:

• Avoid roses – so cliche
• No need to spend over $20
• Pick bright, eye-catching colours

I purchase flowers for my daughter because I enjoy seeing her face light up every time I bring them. She also loves gardening and learning about botany, so there is educational value with each experience. If you don’t have a girl to buy flowers for, buy the flowers for your mother and make sure you have a true story to go along with it.

Once I have the flowers in hand, I stroll the grocery store. The bright bouquet contrasts my rugged physical appearance; ripped rockstar jeans, clean leather jacket, and polished shoes.

There are few things that attract a woman’s eye the way a bouquet of flowers does. You will be surprised at the number of glances you receive as you stroll through the aisles picking up your dinner ingredients. You can literally see the curiosity and attraction immediately develop.

Opportunity will present itself in some fashion and you must be prepared. Be sure to have a crafty response when questioned “who are those for?”

Cost of flowers = $11

Liquor Store

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My favourite place to strike up conversation is in the aisles of the liquor store. Select upper scale stores located in busy parts of your city; avoid dumpy or unpopular retailers.

I have found liquor stores to be the easiest place to start friendly dialogue, practice flirty behaviour, and set up dates. Bring your fresh bouquet of flowers in with you to help draw a bit of attention to yourself.

Cost of bottle of wine = $9

Book Store

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My final stop before going home or hitting the gym is at a book store. Again, I may have the flowers in my hand while browsing the shelves.

Beginning casual conversation with a quality woman is simple and easygoing – there are plenty of topics that you can discuss when surrounded by so many books. Making eye contact here is
effortless as well.

Cost of a trendy magazine = $5

That sums up my day game approach. At no point am I harassing any of these women or coming off as creepy. I’m simply running regular errands with a bit of a strategy and doing so for around $35.

Going for the New Years Kiss

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With New Years Eve fast approaching, an article regarding the big day seems not only worthy, but necessary.

It is a strong desire in both sexes that we ring in the new year with the people we are happiest with. Whether it be our boyfriends, girlfriends, lovers, husbands, wives, or crushes, we feel a deep need to spend the evening with them.

New Years Eve can be a struggling time for single men, however, as we chase our crush during an event-filled Christmas season. With so many holiday commitments and financial obligations, solidifying the plan with the girl you want to be with can be a painful endeavour.

Aside from time restraints due to family functions (lower bonding and seduction opportunities) and decreased funds attributed to excessive spending, the most critical part of setting up your NYE date with her will be this: alternatives.

Some single men will have a plethora of New Years destinations available to them; all single women will have this abundance of invitations. Depending on the number of men attempting to court your young lady, her options are quite open.

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If you haven’t begun to do so, you need to express your interest in spending this important night with her. In doing so, you must find out what kind of event she wants to attend. A few important questions:

• House party, gala event, or club?
• With close friends, acquaintances, new people, family, or a small group?
• What kind of outfit does she want to wear or has already purchased?

The answers to these questions will help you attract her to the venue that she envisions. If you don’t already know this, her outfit of choice is an extremely vital indicator of what she wants to do.

Once you’ve established the way in which she hopes to spend the night, you must use your research skills to find a special place and use your social network to see who may join you. Once a variety of options are potential possibilities, contact her with your game plan. Remember: you need to make the decisions and plans for the entire evening. No Plan = No Date because men are expected to have their shit together. Your competing males will probably not think far enough ahead to consider a safe ride home (you, taxi, limo, friends, etc) and appropriate sleeping arrangements, so make sure this is presented in your plan.

If the young lady appears interested or welcomes any type of invitation, you are on a good path. Avoid seeing this as a concrete night together unless all signs point to such, as many women in today’s dating world feel free to flake out if a better opportunity comes about. If her responses to your invitation do not seem optimistic, she has a NYE plan that doesn’t involve you, so you may as well give up now.

The New Years Eve Kiss at Midnight

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As I reflect on my failures and successes of 2014, I am able to recognize that the first 24 hours of the previous new year had a great impact on my life.

You see, I had managed to get a beautiful young woman I had been crushing on to join myself and another couple to celebrate the night. The tickets were purchased, a decent hotel was booked, and everything had been arranged. We had a spectacular evening – the drinks were plentiful, the dancefloor rocked, and our interactions were playful. I brought failure and disappointment as the clock struck zero…when I kissed her on the cheek.

I got nervous (fuck, I was nervous the whole night) and rather than risk rejection, kissed her politely on the cheek. The way she would’ve felt this was weakness – I did not go after what I wanted. We spent the remainder of the evening as “friends”, even though that was not what we came as.

Do not make the same mistake that I made. If you have googled ” should I kiss her on New Years Eve” and landed here, then this is your answer: she has decided to spend New Years with you, so yes, go for the kiss.

For future events of this nature, do what athletes do when they play big games: visualize. Try to predict where you will be, what the environment will look like, and what her body language says in those dying seconds of the year.

Go for the Kiss on New Years Eve

Being Aware of Hypergamy – Part 2

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Definition:

hypergamy (haɪˈpɜːɡəmɪ)

1. (Anthropology & Ethnology) a custom that forbids a woman to marry a man of lower social status
2. (Anthropology & Ethnology) any marriage with a partner of higher social status

The easiest way to understand hypergamy is too view it as a consistent drive to upgrade to the most desirable relationship.

The traditional definition describes the occurrence in terms of marriage; due to changes in the dating world for those of us in the 21st century, consider its application for modern day relationships.

Although the term is directly associated with monetary value of the potential spouse/mate, hypergamy stretches beyond income and assets. In the western world, a woman is able to discard her current mate to secure a relationship with a male of higher status whenever such opportunity arises. The evolutionary psychology behind this theory is that a female must find a male with the best ability to provide for her offspring, regardless of investments and commitments made to her current boyfriend/fiancé/husband.

Whether the new man has:
A – the current/potential resources that will provide for her (aka the “nice guy”)
B – the ability to take resources from
others (aka the ” bad boy”)
this woman, of any age, can leave her partner with no guilt or consequence.

When a wife cheats, you rarely see her leave for someone of lower status. When a relationship ends, the next boyfriend is typically an improvement over the previous.

I completely support this strategy behind mating. Although it is not widely accepted as a true model (some relationship experts and modern feminists cast their doubts upon its existence), hypergamy presents frequently upon this generation and I understand why women would use it, notwithstanding the fact that it may be a subconscious manoeuvre. In all reality, who doesn’t want the best possible life partner?

This constant drive to upgrade to a better man, however, leaves behind many disgruntled, confused, and heartbroken males, who often feel emasculated several years after the event occurred.

So…How Can Hypergamy Help Men?

It is up to men to strive to improve. At no point can we become stagnant in our personal development… hypergamy has the potential to creep in if we allow it to. Our girlfriend/wife/lover will feel forced to abandon us for a man that can be a “better provider” for her. This means that hypergamy has an underlying benefit: it should force men to invest in themselves.

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The Red Pill has become a necessary male reflex to changes in social dynamics. Our “Self-Improvement Movements” are an excellent defence against hypergamy because you will prove to yourself and to your lover that you are the most valuable man available.

Being Aware of Hypergamy – Part One

Hypergamy is a frequently discussed topic among the Manosphere. For those unfamiliar, here is the Wikipedia definition:

Hypergamy (colloquially referred to as “marrying up“) is the act or practice of marrying someone wealthier, or of higher caste or status than oneself. Although the term is not gendered, it is generally used by social scientists to refer to women marrying higher-status men, rather than to men marrying higher-status women.

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Although frowned upon by many men and women (sometimes causing outright anger), it is a common occurrence across the globe. Being aware of hypergamy will have a positive effect on your self-improvement goals and your overall dating life.

Through the summer of 2014, I had numerous relationships with some truly wonderful women. To recall, here is a quick rundown of where I was at that point in time:

• I had no job and was not in school
• I had moved back to my parents’
• I outcasted myself from old friends
• I was partying like a rockstar
• I was completely irresponsible

In all reality, I had nothing to offer a potential mate: no security, income, or assets that would be appealing for any type of long-term relationship. My physical appearance was, however, above average and included sexually-inspired clothing, a dedicated fitness routine, and proper grooming.

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Regardless of all the negative qualities, I met new women of higher social status on a weekly basis and, remarkably, was able to maintain outstanding “Friends With Benefits” bonds. Three of these women owned their own home, most had their own car, and they all held important positions within their careers. Although I didn’t marry any of these women, I used hypergamy and its core structure as a dating tool to get with high status women. Keep in mind, I wasn’t very high up the totem pole.

During our encounters, my gas was usually paid for (I always drove) and bottles of wine or vodka supplied before going out. More often than not, the girls also purchased drinks for me. In essence, there was a complete role-reversal within my dating world.

How did I do this?

Women are getting bored. They are getting bored with today’s “man”. Most of the men they meet are unimpressive and uninteresting.
* If any female readers disagree with the above statement, please comment.

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In exchange for gasoline and alcohol I provided excitement and mind-blowing sex. That is it.

Between the Nurse, the Executive Assistant, and the Store Manager, they all wanted one thing: exhilaration. They craved the thrills of the evening and anticipation of orgasmic sex. And how could I blame them? They slaved for hours on end in their careers and came home to Netflix marathons or boring Tinder dates. I would steal her on a Wednesday after work, get tipsy at her place, tease her mind and body, and then take her somewhere she had never been, thus making her wait even longer for the sexual experience she desired from me.

In the following articles, I will discuss the advantages and disadvantages of hypergamy as they apply to men.

The Red Pill and True Love

An excellent article was written this week in the Business Insider by Emily Smith regarding the scientific equation to true love; Here is the link. I highly recommend digging into it on your own, but have cut several points out to discuss further, as the information is quite valuable.

Of all the people who get married, only three in ten remain in healthy, happy marriages, as psychologist Ty Tashiro points out in his book “The Science of Happily Ever After,” which was published earlier this year.

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This statistic did surprise me initially – I had always assumed more couples live in a happy state. We struggle to find a compatible mate, investing a great part of ourselves into finding and developing a meaningful bond. I would expect more than half of those yearning for love to commit to each other on a daily basis, but have discovered in my own pursuit of happiness, that this is not necessarily the case. Suffice to say, the infidelity that exists in this generation is only growing.

Social scientists first started studying marriages by observing them in action in the 1970s in response to a crisis: Married couples were divorcing at unprecedented rates. Worried about the impact these divorces would have on the children of the broken marriages, psychologists decided to cast their scientific net on couples, bringing them into the lab to observe them and determine what the ingredients of a healthy, lasting relationship were.

Psychologist John Gottman was one of those researchers. For the past four decades, he has studied thousands of couples in a quest to figure out what makes relationships work. 

…In 1990, he designed a lab on the University of Washington campus to look like a beautiful bed and breakfast retreat.

He invited 130 newlywed couples to spend the day at this retreat and watched them as they did what couples normally do on vacation: cook, clean, listen to music, eat, chat, and hang out. And Gottman made a critical discovery in this study — one that gets at the heart of why some relationships thrive while others languish.

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The information that follows is vital to your current or future relationship. It does not matter if you’re rich or poor, male or female, or heterosexual or homosexual. Upon reading this, flashbacks of your past relationships will flow through your mind as you identify with the research and make connection to failure/success.

Throughout the day, partners would make requests for connection, what Gottman calls “bids.” For example, say that the husband is a bird enthusiast and notices a goldfinch fly across the yard. He might say to his wife, “Look at that beautiful bird outside!” He’s not just commenting on the bird here: he’s requesting a response from his wife — a sign of interest or support — hoping they’ll connect, however momentarily, over the bird.

The wife now has a choice. She can respond by either “turning toward” or “turning away” from her husband, as Gottman puts it. Though the bird-bid might seem minor and silly, it can actually reveal a lot about the health of the relationship. The husband thought the bird was important enough to bring it up in conversation and the question is whether his wife recognizes and respects that.

People who turned toward their partners in the study responded by engaging the bidder, showing interest and support in the bid. Those who didn’t — those who turned away — would not respond or respond minimally and continue doing whatever they were doing, like watching TV or reading the paper. Sometimes they would respond with overt hostility, saying something like, “Stop interrupting me, I’m reading.”

These bidding interactions had profound effects on marital well-being. Couples who had divorced after a six-year follow up had “turn-toward bids” 33 percent of the time. Only three in ten of their bids for emotional connection were met with intimacy. The couples who were still together after six years had “turn-toward bids” 87 percent of the time. Nine times out of ten, they were meeting their partner’s emotional needs.

In that moment, the easy response may be to turn away from your partner and focus on your iPad or your book or the television, to mumble “Uh huh” and move on with your life, but neglecting small moments of emotional connection will slowly wear away at your relationship. Neglect creates distance between partners and breeds resentment in the one who is being ignored.

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I recognize and relate to it so well that it was startling; both great and poor relationships with past girlfriends came to mind when recalling this equation. In future relationships (short-term and long-term), I will pay attention to these “bids” in an attempt to satisfy my partner and to monitor her feelings toward me – I suggest that you do the same.

Red Pill Loneliness

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Several posts across the Manosphere have popped up in recent weeks regarding Red Pill Men and former Betas experiencing a sense of loneliness. Hearing that other men are experiencing similar “set backs” should provide an amount of encouragement to all of those concerned with the issue.

A series of articles regarding this temporary loneliness will be released to assist your transition into the Red Pill world.

The isolation that you are feeling is normal. When drastic change occurs in personal or business arenas, unforeseen events are a certainty that quite simply cannot be prepared for. In terms of becoming an alpha male, we do not expect a negative hit on our social life. Yet here you are reading about it.

One day, something bad happened to you. Something really fucken bad. This event was so negative that it completely fucked you up. Maybe it was a girl, maybe it was a job, or maybe it was a lifelong goal… now you’re fucked up for life. That is how you found the Red Pill. That is how you stumbled into the Manosphere. That is how you brought yourself to make a change.

One of the first things that you realize after a few doses of Red Pill is that men are weak. One of the most difficult processes of your development will be cutting these weak men, your Beta Male friends, from your life or limiting time spent with them.

How do you spot a Beta Male in a social circle?

#1 The Desperate Desperado
∆ He’s the guy that still talks to your ex girlfriend
∆ He’s the guy saddling up to your girl when you leave the room
∆ He’s the guy clinging onto any female that provides him with attention
∆ He’s the guy talking shit to girls, but smiling to your face
∆He’s the guy that counts on you to meet any new women

#2 The Popularly Unpopular
∆He’s the guy that starts and runs the NBA, NFL, and NHL fantasy leagues
∆He’s the guy that organizes frequent poker nights “with the guys”
∆He’s the guy that orders pizza or fast food more than twice per week
∆He’s the guy that knows more social retards than you care to count
∆He’s the guy you actually like, but his friends are an embarrassment

#3 The Intellectual Idiot
∆ He’s the guy that will quote info from the internet to prove you wrong
∆ He’s the guy that flew through college or university but doesn’t know girls
∆ He’s the guy that is so good with his money, he’ll screw you to save a buck
∆ He’s the guy that thinks money and materials are the key to happiness
∆ He’s the guy that gets jealous when you meet new women

There are other types of Beta Males, but the ones described above will hurt you. Minimize the time spent with these guys. Doing so does create a degree of loneliness, but you can’t drive toward your goals with any flat tires.

Next up: Forming Friendships with Other Alpha Males

Stop Taking Your Clothes off… Have Her do it

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You’ve found the girl that you want, have approached her, immediately escalated the connection, and you know that her carnal hunger is real. She’s ready, so you whisk her back to your place.

The kisses are passionate and you can’t keep your hands off of each other. You quickly make your way to the bedroom where the real fun begins. You touch and tease while removing every last article of her clothes, exposing her bare breasts, tight tummy, and freshly shaved pussy.

STOP.

At this point in time, most men will drop their drawers and leap into the bed.

DO NOT DO THIS

How much pleasure did you receive as you removed each article of her clothing? How sexy was it as piece-by-piece her sexy body was revealed? Wasn’t it better than opening a Christmas gift? Of course it was.

When you rip off your clothes so quickly, it’s like watching other people open gifts at Christmas – sure it’s nice and all, but you’re not able to share in the joy and excitement. Give her the gift of unwrapping your body.

As you stand over her while she is on the bed, you appear dominant and she submissive. At this point in time, you are in complete control: she is naked, waiting anxiously for your next move.

COMMAND HER

“Get over here and strip me”
“Come here. Take my shirt off”
“Get the fuck up and take this off”

The dominance you express will give her tingles while the visual stimulation will drive her mad.

Women are not required to do too much in the bedroom. Telling her to tear your clothes off gets her wet because it is new/different, it puts her in a submissive role, and it gets her more involved in the foreplay.

Another benefit to commanding her in this way is the fact that, as a Red Pill man, you spend a great deal of time and effort on your fitness regime and healthy eating habits. Let the girl admire and appreciate all of your hard work.

Take note: this won’t work unless you maintain a frame of dominance throughout the entire encounter. If you’re the typical nice guy, you’re going to come off as a creep or lazy in the sack.

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Organize the Flakes

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The quote above vividly describes the current outbreak of flaking in the dating world. For those unfamiliar, flaking can be defined by the following actions:

Intentionally ignoring texts/calls
Last-minute date cancellations
Lack of commitment to meeting

Each girl feels as though her act of flaking is a harmless manoeuvre, with no real consequence or damage created. Unfortunately, each girl contributing their flaky behaviour has snowballed, resulting in daily avalanches. It is now socially acceptable for women to flake with absolutely no repercussion.

Granted, there are many valid reasons to flake on a guy. After all, many men really have no idea how to communicate with the opposite sex. The flakes discussed within this article are the young ladies that have a steady following of men and have a choke-hold of their dating market. It does not describe women who are uninterested, consider you a friend, or are actually attracted to you.

It is difficult to predict, understand, and/or relate to flaking from a male standpoint. This leaves only “prevention” as a possible solution to the epidemic that technology and sexual liberation has brought upon us.

Organising your contacts in your phone based on flaking behaviour is valuable for a few reasons:

#1. First of all, your subconscious mind will be prepared. You have named her “Flake Amanda” which will remind you of her past behaviour, assisting in how you choose to respond when a message/call comes in.

#2. When scrolling through your contact list on a Friday night, you won’t even bother contacting the girls with the first name “Flake”. Why set yourself up for rejection while providing them with an ego boost?

#3. You have something to show her if you run into her. This tactic is cheap and childish, but so is flaking. At some point in the conversation, show her the list of girls you have in your ” Flake File” and point her out. Women think that they’re all unique and special; showing her that she’s just the same as every other 20-something robs her of that distinction. Don’t be an asshole about it – be cool, nonchalant, and careless.

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#4. Creating this list will motivate you to go out and replace flakes that have made the list. Knowing that you will no longer communicate with her may light that fire under your ass to ask for numbers.

#5. It is a step in the right direction in terms of communication and efficiency. This isn’t the solution to worldwide flakes, but you’ll find yourself dealing with less bitch behaviour and moving on much quicker.

This form of prevention works and will be of benefit to anyone dealing with constant flaking.

Has She Given You a Personalised Ring Tone?

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We all know about custom or personalised ring tones that we use to organize our contact list – it certainly isn’t something new. The question, however, is if YOU have a special ring when your messages are received by her.

As a few of us gathered for drinks at my FWB’s place, an interesting sound rung through the room during one of those quiet moments: a hissing rattlesnake. Brief laughter followed and then the explanation: my FWB’s ex-boyfriend was contacting her. This got me thinking… what’s my ring tone?

Although not as powerful as the senses of sight, smell, taste, or touch, the association placed on sound can spark memories or change moods. These simple noises can cause or deter a girl from responding to your text messages on a subconscious level. It’s safe to say that you want a positive ring tone attached to your name.

After a few minutes of pondering, I gracefully sent a message to Hollie in an attempt to withdraw the information I wanted. Here are a few inconspicuous ways to send a text message while in the same room, without creeping her out:

1. Send a blank message “by accident”
2. Send a funny pic/gif/video
3. Attach a link to an article she’d be interested in

Make sure that you’re within earshot of her phone so you can capture the sound that she attributes to your name.

I was flattered when my test was performed: not only did Hollie ignore the hissing rattlesnake and instinctively avoid her phone, she reached for her cell almost instantly when she heard my text. Her body language literally changed in response to the specific ringtone set for me (a happy, upbeat song).

I conducted a social experiment over the course of the next few days on five girls that I’m currently seeing. The results were not worthy of a Harvard study, but is worth checking out on the girl(s) you’re interested in. I am in different stages with all of these young women, and was able to draw a few conclusions below. Listen to see if she has a variety of sounds, which signifies that she does organize her contact list. Facebook, Tinder, Email, etc have their own custom notifications, adding difficulty to the experiment.

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Phone is on Silent
Likely:
•She has other guys chasing her and is avoiding conflict with you, playing game on them, and hiding something. Note: if this is your LTR girlfriend and her phone is always on silent, she’s cheating.

Possibly:
•She respects you enough that she is committing her full attention to the time spent with you.

Unlikely:
•She forgot to turn on volume

Ring Tone that came with Phone
Likely:
• You’re not important enough yet to be categorized.

Possibly:
•She doesn’t organize her contact list

Unlikely:
•That this article applies to you

Custom Ringtone
Likely:
•You’ve been organized and now need to find out in what category. Did you meet over Tinder? Because all the other Tinder guys get that sound. Are you falling into the Friend Zone? If your ringtone is the same as her BFF, you’ve got problems.

Possibly:
•She likes you and has done something to differentiate you from other contacts.

Unlikely:
•That she did this by accident

Personalised Ringtone (Special Sound)
Likely:
•She’s attracted in one way or another. You now need to find out if there are other guys with the same ringtone

Possibly:
•If the ringtone is personalised with something special between the two of you, she’s falling for you. If it is something lame, like R2D2 from Star Wars, you may be going in the wrong direction.

Unlikely:
•That you’re competing with many other men
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The important thing to take from all of this is getting a personalised ringtone. After sending my blank text, pic, or article, I began negging all five girls over their choice of ringtone that they had given me (whether they gave me one or not). It was fun and playful, led to flirting, and concluded with me getting exactly what I wanted: a ringtone that will stimulate the desire to pick up her phone and respond to me.

Come up with a few sexy ringtones and get it attached to your name. I’m already being rewarded by enacting this change and you’ll see the difference too.