Friends

Red Pill Loneliness: Forming Friendships with Alpha Males

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In the previous article “Red Pill Loneliness“, we acknowledge that isolation occurs with change. The decision to “unplug” and take the Red Pill has consequences, one of which includes losing friends.

Building a new network can be a tiresome venture, but the investment pays off. Having alpha male friends rather than betas will surely change your life in a positive way.

It has taken me an entire year to do it, but I now have three best friends that consistently display alpha traits. Here are the pros and cons of having this type of man as a friend:

PROS
Your dedication to the gym, fitness activities, and sports will increase. You may or may not partake in these events with the Alpha male, but your athletic goals will be pushed.

You will eat healthier and learn to cook some interesting dishes because these men take care of their bodies

You will meet new women. Alpha men will approach and their natural charisma will provide you with opportunities.

More women will approach you and your group. Girls will be drawn in to the dominant male(s) in any room.

You will feel more masculine. Your body language will change, your self-esteem will improve, and your communication style will adapt.

You don’t have to worry about a true Alpha male fucking your girlfriend or cockblocking you. They can get their own pussy.

CONS
You will still experience loneliness due to the fact that Alpha men live busy lives. Between lists of responsibilities, partying, and gym time, they will not always be available.

Because Alpha men are frequently out on the town, you will find yourself spending more money.

Although Alpha men are admired in many social circles, they have a knack for making enemies, sparking jealousy, and making others angry.

Alpha males won’t put up with your shit. If you start to fail or fizzle out, don’t expect them to carry you for too long. If you screw them, you can be sure they’ll drop you permanently from their friends list.

How Do You Meet Alpha Males?
Simple. That guy in the room that’s getting all the positive attention and commands respect? That’s him. I find that their are only a few ways to connect with these types of men:

1. Find a common enemy. This may prove difficult, but this type of bond is concrete.

2. Share a story about the girl that broke your heart and how you’ve overcome it. These men have fallen in love too; this discussion will show his weaker, empathetic side.

3. Talk about your gym schedules, routines, etc.

Bonding with these stronger men may be intimidating at first. Drop the beta behaviour and go get a top tier friend.

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Red Pill Loneliness

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Several posts across the Manosphere have popped up in recent weeks regarding Red Pill Men and former Betas experiencing a sense of loneliness. Hearing that other men are experiencing similar “set backs” should provide an amount of encouragement to all of those concerned with the issue.

A series of articles regarding this temporary loneliness will be released to assist your transition into the Red Pill world.

The isolation that you are feeling is normal. When drastic change occurs in personal or business arenas, unforeseen events are a certainty that quite simply cannot be prepared for. In terms of becoming an alpha male, we do not expect a negative hit on our social life. Yet here you are reading about it.

One day, something bad happened to you. Something really fucken bad. This event was so negative that it completely fucked you up. Maybe it was a girl, maybe it was a job, or maybe it was a lifelong goal… now you’re fucked up for life. That is how you found the Red Pill. That is how you stumbled into the Manosphere. That is how you brought yourself to make a change.

One of the first things that you realize after a few doses of Red Pill is that men are weak. One of the most difficult processes of your development will be cutting these weak men, your Beta Male friends, from your life or limiting time spent with them.

How do you spot a Beta Male in a social circle?

#1 The Desperate Desperado
∆ He’s the guy that still talks to your ex girlfriend
∆ He’s the guy saddling up to your girl when you leave the room
∆ He’s the guy clinging onto any female that provides him with attention
∆ He’s the guy talking shit to girls, but smiling to your face
∆He’s the guy that counts on you to meet any new women

#2 The Popularly Unpopular
∆He’s the guy that starts and runs the NBA, NFL, and NHL fantasy leagues
∆He’s the guy that organizes frequent poker nights “with the guys”
∆He’s the guy that orders pizza or fast food more than twice per week
∆He’s the guy that knows more social retards than you care to count
∆He’s the guy you actually like, but his friends are an embarrassment

#3 The Intellectual Idiot
∆ He’s the guy that will quote info from the internet to prove you wrong
∆ He’s the guy that flew through college or university but doesn’t know girls
∆ He’s the guy that is so good with his money, he’ll screw you to save a buck
∆ He’s the guy that thinks money and materials are the key to happiness
∆ He’s the guy that gets jealous when you meet new women

There are other types of Beta Males, but the ones described above will hurt you. Minimize the time spent with these guys. Doing so does create a degree of loneliness, but you can’t drive toward your goals with any flat tires.

Next up: Forming Friendships with Other Alpha Males