Hypergamy

Being Aware of Hypergamy – Part 2

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Definition:

hypergamy (haɪˈpɜːɡəmɪ)

1. (Anthropology & Ethnology) a custom that forbids a woman to marry a man of lower social status
2. (Anthropology & Ethnology) any marriage with a partner of higher social status

The easiest way to understand hypergamy is too view it as a consistent drive to upgrade to the most desirable relationship.

The traditional definition describes the occurrence in terms of marriage; due to changes in the dating world for those of us in the 21st century, consider its application for modern day relationships.

Although the term is directly associated with monetary value of the potential spouse/mate, hypergamy stretches beyond income and assets. In the western world, a woman is able to discard her current mate to secure a relationship with a male of higher status whenever such opportunity arises. The evolutionary psychology behind this theory is that a female must find a male with the best ability to provide for her offspring, regardless of investments and commitments made to her current boyfriend/fiancé/husband.

Whether the new man has:
A – the current/potential resources that will provide for her (aka the “nice guy”)
B – the ability to take resources from
others (aka the ” bad boy”)
this woman, of any age, can leave her partner with no guilt or consequence.

When a wife cheats, you rarely see her leave for someone of lower status. When a relationship ends, the next boyfriend is typically an improvement over the previous.

I completely support this strategy behind mating. Although it is not widely accepted as a true model (some relationship experts and modern feminists cast their doubts upon its existence), hypergamy presents frequently upon this generation and I understand why women would use it, notwithstanding the fact that it may be a subconscious manoeuvre. In all reality, who doesn’t want the best possible life partner?

This constant drive to upgrade to a better man, however, leaves behind many disgruntled, confused, and heartbroken males, who often feel emasculated several years after the event occurred.

So…How Can Hypergamy Help Men?

It is up to men to strive to improve. At no point can we become stagnant in our personal development… hypergamy has the potential to creep in if we allow it to. Our girlfriend/wife/lover will feel forced to abandon us for a man that can be a “better provider” for her. This means that hypergamy has an underlying benefit: it should force men to invest in themselves.

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The Red Pill has become a necessary male reflex to changes in social dynamics. Our “Self-Improvement Movements” are an excellent defence against hypergamy because you will prove to yourself and to your lover that you are the most valuable man available.

Being Aware of Hypergamy – Part One

Hypergamy is a frequently discussed topic among the Manosphere. For those unfamiliar, here is the Wikipedia definition:

Hypergamy (colloquially referred to as “marrying up“) is the act or practice of marrying someone wealthier, or of higher caste or status than oneself. Although the term is not gendered, it is generally used by social scientists to refer to women marrying higher-status men, rather than to men marrying higher-status women.

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Although frowned upon by many men and women (sometimes causing outright anger), it is a common occurrence across the globe. Being aware of hypergamy will have a positive effect on your self-improvement goals and your overall dating life.

Through the summer of 2014, I had numerous relationships with some truly wonderful women. To recall, here is a quick rundown of where I was at that point in time:

• I had no job and was not in school
• I had moved back to my parents’
• I outcasted myself from old friends
• I was partying like a rockstar
• I was completely irresponsible

In all reality, I had nothing to offer a potential mate: no security, income, or assets that would be appealing for any type of long-term relationship. My physical appearance was, however, above average and included sexually-inspired clothing, a dedicated fitness routine, and proper grooming.

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Regardless of all the negative qualities, I met new women of higher social status on a weekly basis and, remarkably, was able to maintain outstanding “Friends With Benefits” bonds. Three of these women owned their own home, most had their own car, and they all held important positions within their careers. Although I didn’t marry any of these women, I used hypergamy and its core structure as a dating tool to get with high status women. Keep in mind, I wasn’t very high up the totem pole.

During our encounters, my gas was usually paid for (I always drove) and bottles of wine or vodka supplied before going out. More often than not, the girls also purchased drinks for me. In essence, there was a complete role-reversal within my dating world.

How did I do this?

Women are getting bored. They are getting bored with today’s “man”. Most of the men they meet are unimpressive and uninteresting.
* If any female readers disagree with the above statement, please comment.

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In exchange for gasoline and alcohol I provided excitement and mind-blowing sex. That is it.

Between the Nurse, the Executive Assistant, and the Store Manager, they all wanted one thing: exhilaration. They craved the thrills of the evening and anticipation of orgasmic sex. And how could I blame them? They slaved for hours on end in their careers and came home to Netflix marathons or boring Tinder dates. I would steal her on a Wednesday after work, get tipsy at her place, tease her mind and body, and then take her somewhere she had never been, thus making her wait even longer for the sexual experience she desired from me.

In the following articles, I will discuss the advantages and disadvantages of hypergamy as they apply to men.