1. (Anthropology & Ethnology) a custom that forbids a woman to marry a man of lower social status
2. (Anthropology & Ethnology) any marriage with a partner of higher social status
The easiest way to understand hypergamy is too view it as a consistent drive to upgrade to the most desirable relationship.
The traditional definition describes the occurrence in terms of marriage; due to changes in the dating world for those of us in the 21st century, consider its application for modern day relationships.
Although the term is directly associated with monetary value of the potential spouse/mate, hypergamy stretches beyond income and assets. In the western world, a woman is able to discard her current mate to secure a relationship with a male of higher status whenever such opportunity arises. The evolutionary psychology behind this theory is that a female must find a male with the best ability to provide for her offspring, regardless of investments and commitments made to her current boyfriend/fiancé/husband.
Whether the new man has:
A – the current/potential resources that will provide for her (aka the “nice guy”)
B – the ability to take resources from
others (aka the ” bad boy”)
this woman, of any age, can leave her partner with no guilt or consequence.
When a wife cheats, you rarely see her leave for someone of lower status. When a relationship ends, the next boyfriend is typically an improvement over the previous.
I completely support this strategy behind mating. Although it is not widely accepted as a true model (some relationship experts and modern feminists cast their doubts upon its existence), hypergamy presents frequently upon this generation and I understand why women would use it, notwithstanding the fact that it may be a subconscious manoeuvre. In all reality, who doesn’t want the best possible life partner?
This constant drive to upgrade to a better man, however, leaves behind many disgruntled, confused, and heartbroken males, who often feel emasculated several years after the event occurred.
So…How Can Hypergamy Help Men?
It is up to men to strive to improve. At no point can we become stagnant in our personal development… hypergamy has the potential to creep in if we allow it to. Our girlfriend/wife/lover will feel forced to abandon us for a man that can be a “better provider” for her. This means that hypergamy has an underlying benefit: it should force men to invest in themselves.
The Red Pill has become a necessary male reflex to changes in social dynamics. Our “Self-Improvement Movements” are an excellent defence against hypergamy because you will prove to yourself and to your lover that you are the most valuable man available.