With New Years Eve fast approaching, an article regarding the big day seems not only worthy, but necessary.
It is a strong desire in both sexes that we ring in the new year with the people we are happiest with. Whether it be our boyfriends, girlfriends, lovers, husbands, wives, or crushes, we feel a deep need to spend the evening with them.
New Years Eve can be a struggling time for single men, however, as we chase our crush during an event-filled Christmas season. With so many holiday commitments and financial obligations, solidifying the plan with the girl you want to be with can be a painful endeavour.
Aside from time restraints due to family functions (lower bonding and seduction opportunities) and decreased funds attributed to excessive spending, the most critical part of setting up your NYE date with her will be this: alternatives.
Some single men will have a plethora of New Years destinations available to them; all single women will have this abundance of invitations. Depending on the number of men attempting to court your young lady, her options are quite open.
If you haven’t begun to do so, you need to express your interest in spending this important night with her. In doing so, you must find out what kind of event she wants to attend. A few important questions:
• House party, gala event, or club?
• With close friends, acquaintances, new people, family, or a small group?
• What kind of outfit does she want to wear or has already purchased?
The answers to these questions will help you attract her to the venue that she envisions. If you don’t already know this, her outfit of choice is an extremely vital indicator of what she wants to do.
Once you’ve established the way in which she hopes to spend the night, you must use your research skills to find a special place and use your social network to see who may join you. Once a variety of options are potential possibilities, contact her with your game plan. Remember: you need to make the decisions and plans for the entire evening. No Plan = No Date because men are expected to have their shit together. Your competing males will probably not think far enough ahead to consider a safe ride home (you, taxi, limo, friends, etc) and appropriate sleeping arrangements, so make sure this is presented in your plan.
If the young lady appears interested or welcomes any type of invitation, you are on a good path. Avoid seeing this as a concrete night together unless all signs point to such, as many women in today’s dating world feel free to flake out if a better opportunity comes about. If her responses to your invitation do not seem optimistic, she has a NYE plan that doesn’t involve you, so you may as well give up now.
The New Years Eve Kiss at Midnight
As I reflect on my failures and successes of 2014, I am able to recognize that the first 24 hours of the previous new year had a great impact on my life.
You see, I had managed to get a beautiful young woman I had been crushing on to join myself and another couple to celebrate the night. The tickets were purchased, a decent hotel was booked, and everything had been arranged. We had a spectacular evening – the drinks were plentiful, the dancefloor rocked, and our interactions were playful. I brought failure and disappointment as the clock struck zero…when I kissed her on the cheek.
I got nervous (fuck, I was nervous the whole night) and rather than risk rejection, kissed her politely on the cheek. The way she would’ve felt this was weakness – I did not go after what I wanted. We spent the remainder of the evening as “friends”, even though that was not what we came as.
Do not make the same mistake that I made. If you have googled ” should I kiss her on New Years Eve” and landed here, then this is your answer: she has decided to spend New Years with you, so yes, go for the kiss.
For future events of this nature, do what athletes do when they play big games: visualize. Try to predict where you will be, what the environment will look like, and what her body language says in those dying seconds of the year.
Go for the Kiss on New Years Eve