PUA

Organize the Flakes

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The quote above vividly describes the current outbreak of flaking in the dating world. For those unfamiliar, flaking can be defined by the following actions:

Intentionally ignoring texts/calls
Last-minute date cancellations
Lack of commitment to meeting

Each girl feels as though her act of flaking is a harmless manoeuvre, with no real consequence or damage created. Unfortunately, each girl contributing their flaky behaviour has snowballed, resulting in daily avalanches. It is now socially acceptable for women to flake with absolutely no repercussion.

Granted, there are many valid reasons to flake on a guy. After all, many men really have no idea how to communicate with the opposite sex. The flakes discussed within this article are the young ladies that have a steady following of men and have a choke-hold of their dating market. It does not describe women who are uninterested, consider you a friend, or are actually attracted to you.

It is difficult to predict, understand, and/or relate to flaking from a male standpoint. This leaves only “prevention” as a possible solution to the epidemic that technology and sexual liberation has brought upon us.

Organising your contacts in your phone based on flaking behaviour is valuable for a few reasons:

#1. First of all, your subconscious mind will be prepared. You have named her “Flake Amanda” which will remind you of her past behaviour, assisting in how you choose to respond when a message/call comes in.

#2. When scrolling through your contact list on a Friday night, you won’t even bother contacting the girls with the first name “Flake”. Why set yourself up for rejection while providing them with an ego boost?

#3. You have something to show her if you run into her. This tactic is cheap and childish, but so is flaking. At some point in the conversation, show her the list of girls you have in your ” Flake File” and point her out. Women think that they’re all unique and special; showing her that she’s just the same as every other 20-something robs her of that distinction. Don’t be an asshole about it – be cool, nonchalant, and careless.

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#4. Creating this list will motivate you to go out and replace flakes that have made the list. Knowing that you will no longer communicate with her may light that fire under your ass to ask for numbers.

#5. It is a step in the right direction in terms of communication and efficiency. This isn’t the solution to worldwide flakes, but you’ll find yourself dealing with less bitch behaviour and moving on much quicker.

This form of prevention works and will be of benefit to anyone dealing with constant flaking.

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Has She Given You a Personalised Ring Tone?

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We all know about custom or personalised ring tones that we use to organize our contact list – it certainly isn’t something new. The question, however, is if YOU have a special ring when your messages are received by her.

As a few of us gathered for drinks at my FWB’s place, an interesting sound rung through the room during one of those quiet moments: a hissing rattlesnake. Brief laughter followed and then the explanation: my FWB’s ex-boyfriend was contacting her. This got me thinking… what’s my ring tone?

Although not as powerful as the senses of sight, smell, taste, or touch, the association placed on sound can spark memories or change moods. These simple noises can cause or deter a girl from responding to your text messages on a subconscious level. It’s safe to say that you want a positive ring tone attached to your name.

After a few minutes of pondering, I gracefully sent a message to Hollie in an attempt to withdraw the information I wanted. Here are a few inconspicuous ways to send a text message while in the same room, without creeping her out:

1. Send a blank message “by accident”
2. Send a funny pic/gif/video
3. Attach a link to an article she’d be interested in

Make sure that you’re within earshot of her phone so you can capture the sound that she attributes to your name.

I was flattered when my test was performed: not only did Hollie ignore the hissing rattlesnake and instinctively avoid her phone, she reached for her cell almost instantly when she heard my text. Her body language literally changed in response to the specific ringtone set for me (a happy, upbeat song).

I conducted a social experiment over the course of the next few days on five girls that I’m currently seeing. The results were not worthy of a Harvard study, but is worth checking out on the girl(s) you’re interested in. I am in different stages with all of these young women, and was able to draw a few conclusions below. Listen to see if she has a variety of sounds, which signifies that she does organize her contact list. Facebook, Tinder, Email, etc have their own custom notifications, adding difficulty to the experiment.

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Phone is on Silent
Likely:
•She has other guys chasing her and is avoiding conflict with you, playing game on them, and hiding something. Note: if this is your LTR girlfriend and her phone is always on silent, she’s cheating.

Possibly:
•She respects you enough that she is committing her full attention to the time spent with you.

Unlikely:
•She forgot to turn on volume

Ring Tone that came with Phone
Likely:
• You’re not important enough yet to be categorized.

Possibly:
•She doesn’t organize her contact list

Unlikely:
•That this article applies to you

Custom Ringtone
Likely:
•You’ve been organized and now need to find out in what category. Did you meet over Tinder? Because all the other Tinder guys get that sound. Are you falling into the Friend Zone? If your ringtone is the same as her BFF, you’ve got problems.

Possibly:
•She likes you and has done something to differentiate you from other contacts.

Unlikely:
•That she did this by accident

Personalised Ringtone (Special Sound)
Likely:
•She’s attracted in one way or another. You now need to find out if there are other guys with the same ringtone

Possibly:
•If the ringtone is personalised with something special between the two of you, she’s falling for you. If it is something lame, like R2D2 from Star Wars, you may be going in the wrong direction.

Unlikely:
•That you’re competing with many other men
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The important thing to take from all of this is getting a personalised ringtone. After sending my blank text, pic, or article, I began negging all five girls over their choice of ringtone that they had given me (whether they gave me one or not). It was fun and playful, led to flirting, and concluded with me getting exactly what I wanted: a ringtone that will stimulate the desire to pick up her phone and respond to me.

Come up with a few sexy ringtones and get it attached to your name. I’m already being rewarded by enacting this change and you’ll see the difference too.

The Unspoken Golden Rule of Dating

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I stumbled upon a “golden rule” of dating that women apply that not only caught my attention, but blew my mind when I realized the truth behind it. As men, we often neglect to view the world from other perspectives and are oblivious to some of the tactics used by the opposite sex.

This is the unspoken fact that modern women can count on: “One of the Golden Rules of dating is that you can always fuck a hotter guy than you can get a commitment from.”

The simplicity behind it is amazing. At the same time, the information is gut wrenching.

I need not dig into this golden rule; knowing that it is an element of dating and relationships is valuable enough.

In an effort to uncover more of these “golden rules”, I scoured the internet for women’s dating advice. Here is the unedited collection of advice that female pick-up artists have passed along through websites, blogs, etc. to the girls of this generation.

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DATING
Only put in 30% effort.

Make him come to you. This is especially true for the first few dates. If you go to his house on the first date instead of him coming to pick you up, I have two words for you, Booty Call.

You should not accept a date on Wednesday or Thursday for that weekend. You are a busy woman.

Let your man pay. If he is interested, he is interested enough to ensure you eat well and get home safely in a cab.

Always keep a guy waiting and never turn up early. It is a lady’s prerogative.

If he is available Tuesday, you are available Thursday.

Dating one man at a time, will only allow you to find one loser at time

Avoid two things in life: cheap shoes and cheap men

Be a Responder, not a Hunter. Hunters are men. You are not a man.

Busy is just “Busy”– don’t explain. Be happy and aloof when explaining that you are busy for the night.

Never be available when he wants you to be.

Use pet names such as “honey” or “sweetheart” to avoid mixing up their names when dating multiple guys.

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SEX
Want to hook up? Do it.

Never ever sleep with a guy until he has fallen for you.

When on vacation, slut it up hardcore if you know you never have to see him again

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CELL
Never return a call or text immediately.  Remember, you are busy, busy, busy.

Wait at least four hours to answer a text

Don’t answer after midnight

Always respond with fewer words than he’s texted to you.

Wait 24 to 48 hours to confirm a friend request from him and NEVER write on his wall or ‘like’ his status updates.

Never be at the end of a phone when he calls and always let him leave a message or two first before replying.
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 Granted, not all women will take these tidbits of advice to heart, nor will they apply them to every single man. The female sex does use “game”, just like we do though.

I am, however, hoping to discover more of these unspoken golden rules that exist. If you know of any, please add them to the comments to assist other young men that are on the journey. As one website wrote: “Just like with children who will tell you they don’t want rules, men function much better and are happier with them.”

Pfft, yeah…

Calling Out a Flake

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When a girl flakes (last minute cancellations, delayed text replies, and the pathetic no-show behaviours), it stirs the mind. How do you restart the convo? Do you even bother? More importantly, how can I prevent it from happening in the future?

Every single girl that I have communicated with since January (10 months ~20 girls) has flaked at some point and a raw solution does not appear available. One of the undeniable truths of Red Pill Theory is that the young western women in this generation have countless options; each man is like a fluctuating currency in a trading market, with our value being pegged against her fly-by-night emotion or need rather than a firm ideology. Where a currency exchange has forms of stability, her male trading market reaches peaks and valleys with the flow of competing male attention and adjusts according to her irrational mood.

In a trial-and-error approach, I called out Brandee for flaking. When I decided to do this, I had reached the point where I no longer cared if she were in or out of my life. Her complete lack of respect (as evidence by flaking) had pushed me away and I no longer felt attraction. For some reason *attention whoring* she continued to text and call me, which I found bothersome. Here is our convo:

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She is obviously insulted when I call her a flake. I immediately respond with a logical and truthful statement. It’s quite funny to see how quickly she changes her mind and admits to it! Her response “I know. I know” goes unanswered for three days.

When she does initiate contact, I waited an hour and let her know I was busy doing my own important stuff. She then steps up to invite me to “chill this week”.

All in all, I’ve learned that I can call a girl out for flaking when I no longer care. I do keep in mind that she’s only a 7, although she has 4+ betas chasing her. I’ve since met with Brandee for two hours of steamy sex and drank her booze…I think I’ll call the next girl out too and ask for another bottle lol.

Having a Sports Car Does Not Pick Up Girls

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I must admit that I drive one of the hottest cars in my city.  It is unique, has a flashy colour, produces quite the rumble, and turns heads at every single intersection. My car is so sexy, in fact, that people take photos of themselves with it when it is parked while I run errands.

When I meet other men, they automatically assume that I “pick up” so many girls with it; I would like to remove the stigma attached to driving a hot car in the hopes that young men will realize a material item does no good to you during the initial pick up (yes, the car can help during a seduction period, but not to MEET girls).

I’ll tell you what a sports car is in terms of PUA: it is a Man Magnet. It does not matter if you have an exotic, muscle, classic, rat rod, hotrod, or super sportscar…men will constantly approach you. On top of that, they may linger for quite some time and unknowingly cock block you.

What you need to know is that the “douchebag” outside the club with the cool paint job, spinning rims, or loud sound system is unlikely to meet any new women, regardless of the make or model.

I’ll tell you why you should get a sports car: FOR YOUR PLEASURE. When I found out I was going to be a father while in my first year of college, I knew that the money I earned would no longer be the money I could spend. In an effort to satisfy my dreams while matching a crushing reality, I purchased a kit car and built it up in my garage over the next several years. Here are the true benefits to owning/restoring/maintaining a high end vehicle (none of which include picking up chicks):

You are doing something for yourself
You learn an incredible amount of info
Your hands-on skills increase
Your social network (with men) expands
You bond with your child(ren) while teaching them valuable skills
You always have an ESCAPE

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The rewards you reap from having a sports car are unreal. Especially when you get your children involved; my daughter and i have enjoyed every aspect of my sportscar. From oil changes and break work to car shows and beach cruises, it brings us joy. But I will remind you again that your car has nothing to do with getting the girl. In the four years I’ve owned my car, not a single girl has banged me because I built, own, or drive it. Granted, surprising a girl on the second or third date is exciting when you nonchalantly arrive at her place in it, but don’t blame your 1997 Cavalier for an inability to pick up.

Women don’t care about what you have. Would you care if she owned a:
*Corvette?
*Thousand pair of shoes?
*70″ inch television?
*Louis Vuitton purse?
*Swimming pool?
No. You wouldn’t give a flying fuck. All you care about is how much attraction exists. And that’s all she wants too.