Sex

Going for the New Years Kiss

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With New Years Eve fast approaching, an article regarding the big day seems not only worthy, but necessary.

It is a strong desire in both sexes that we ring in the new year with the people we are happiest with. Whether it be our boyfriends, girlfriends, lovers, husbands, wives, or crushes, we feel a deep need to spend the evening with them.

New Years Eve can be a struggling time for single men, however, as we chase our crush during an event-filled Christmas season. With so many holiday commitments and financial obligations, solidifying the plan with the girl you want to be with can be a painful endeavour.

Aside from time restraints due to family functions (lower bonding and seduction opportunities) and decreased funds attributed to excessive spending, the most critical part of setting up your NYE date with her will be this: alternatives.

Some single men will have a plethora of New Years destinations available to them; all single women will have this abundance of invitations. Depending on the number of men attempting to court your young lady, her options are quite open.

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If you haven’t begun to do so, you need to express your interest in spending this important night with her. In doing so, you must find out what kind of event she wants to attend. A few important questions:

• House party, gala event, or club?
• With close friends, acquaintances, new people, family, or a small group?
• What kind of outfit does she want to wear or has already purchased?

The answers to these questions will help you attract her to the venue that she envisions. If you don’t already know this, her outfit of choice is an extremely vital indicator of what she wants to do.

Once you’ve established the way in which she hopes to spend the night, you must use your research skills to find a special place and use your social network to see who may join you. Once a variety of options are potential possibilities, contact her with your game plan. Remember: you need to make the decisions and plans for the entire evening. No Plan = No Date because men are expected to have their shit together. Your competing males will probably not think far enough ahead to consider a safe ride home (you, taxi, limo, friends, etc) and appropriate sleeping arrangements, so make sure this is presented in your plan.

If the young lady appears interested or welcomes any type of invitation, you are on a good path. Avoid seeing this as a concrete night together unless all signs point to such, as many women in today’s dating world feel free to flake out if a better opportunity comes about. If her responses to your invitation do not seem optimistic, she has a NYE plan that doesn’t involve you, so you may as well give up now.

The New Years Eve Kiss at Midnight

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As I reflect on my failures and successes of 2014, I am able to recognize that the first 24 hours of the previous new year had a great impact on my life.

You see, I had managed to get a beautiful young woman I had been crushing on to join myself and another couple to celebrate the night. The tickets were purchased, a decent hotel was booked, and everything had been arranged. We had a spectacular evening – the drinks were plentiful, the dancefloor rocked, and our interactions were playful. I brought failure and disappointment as the clock struck zero…when I kissed her on the cheek.

I got nervous (fuck, I was nervous the whole night) and rather than risk rejection, kissed her politely on the cheek. The way she would’ve felt this was weakness – I did not go after what I wanted. We spent the remainder of the evening as “friends”, even though that was not what we came as.

Do not make the same mistake that I made. If you have googled ” should I kiss her on New Years Eve” and landed here, then this is your answer: she has decided to spend New Years with you, so yes, go for the kiss.

For future events of this nature, do what athletes do when they play big games: visualize. Try to predict where you will be, what the environment will look like, and what her body language says in those dying seconds of the year.

Go for the Kiss on New Years Eve

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Being Aware of Hypergamy – Part One

Hypergamy is a frequently discussed topic among the Manosphere. For those unfamiliar, here is the Wikipedia definition:

Hypergamy (colloquially referred to as “marrying up“) is the act or practice of marrying someone wealthier, or of higher caste or status than oneself. Although the term is not gendered, it is generally used by social scientists to refer to women marrying higher-status men, rather than to men marrying higher-status women.

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Although frowned upon by many men and women (sometimes causing outright anger), it is a common occurrence across the globe. Being aware of hypergamy will have a positive effect on your self-improvement goals and your overall dating life.

Through the summer of 2014, I had numerous relationships with some truly wonderful women. To recall, here is a quick rundown of where I was at that point in time:

• I had no job and was not in school
• I had moved back to my parents’
• I outcasted myself from old friends
• I was partying like a rockstar
• I was completely irresponsible

In all reality, I had nothing to offer a potential mate: no security, income, or assets that would be appealing for any type of long-term relationship. My physical appearance was, however, above average and included sexually-inspired clothing, a dedicated fitness routine, and proper grooming.

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Regardless of all the negative qualities, I met new women of higher social status on a weekly basis and, remarkably, was able to maintain outstanding “Friends With Benefits” bonds. Three of these women owned their own home, most had their own car, and they all held important positions within their careers. Although I didn’t marry any of these women, I used hypergamy and its core structure as a dating tool to get with high status women. Keep in mind, I wasn’t very high up the totem pole.

During our encounters, my gas was usually paid for (I always drove) and bottles of wine or vodka supplied before going out. More often than not, the girls also purchased drinks for me. In essence, there was a complete role-reversal within my dating world.

How did I do this?

Women are getting bored. They are getting bored with today’s “man”. Most of the men they meet are unimpressive and uninteresting.
* If any female readers disagree with the above statement, please comment.

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In exchange for gasoline and alcohol I provided excitement and mind-blowing sex. That is it.

Between the Nurse, the Executive Assistant, and the Store Manager, they all wanted one thing: exhilaration. They craved the thrills of the evening and anticipation of orgasmic sex. And how could I blame them? They slaved for hours on end in their careers and came home to Netflix marathons or boring Tinder dates. I would steal her on a Wednesday after work, get tipsy at her place, tease her mind and body, and then take her somewhere she had never been, thus making her wait even longer for the sexual experience she desired from me.

In the following articles, I will discuss the advantages and disadvantages of hypergamy as they apply to men.

Stop Taking Your Clothes off… Have Her do it

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You’ve found the girl that you want, have approached her, immediately escalated the connection, and you know that her carnal hunger is real. She’s ready, so you whisk her back to your place.

The kisses are passionate and you can’t keep your hands off of each other. You quickly make your way to the bedroom where the real fun begins. You touch and tease while removing every last article of her clothes, exposing her bare breasts, tight tummy, and freshly shaved pussy.

STOP.

At this point in time, most men will drop their drawers and leap into the bed.

DO NOT DO THIS

How much pleasure did you receive as you removed each article of her clothing? How sexy was it as piece-by-piece her sexy body was revealed? Wasn’t it better than opening a Christmas gift? Of course it was.

When you rip off your clothes so quickly, it’s like watching other people open gifts at Christmas – sure it’s nice and all, but you’re not able to share in the joy and excitement. Give her the gift of unwrapping your body.

As you stand over her while she is on the bed, you appear dominant and she submissive. At this point in time, you are in complete control: she is naked, waiting anxiously for your next move.

COMMAND HER

“Get over here and strip me”
“Come here. Take my shirt off”
“Get the fuck up and take this off”

The dominance you express will give her tingles while the visual stimulation will drive her mad.

Women are not required to do too much in the bedroom. Telling her to tear your clothes off gets her wet because it is new/different, it puts her in a submissive role, and it gets her more involved in the foreplay.

Another benefit to commanding her in this way is the fact that, as a Red Pill man, you spend a great deal of time and effort on your fitness regime and healthy eating habits. Let the girl admire and appreciate all of your hard work.

Take note: this won’t work unless you maintain a frame of dominance throughout the entire encounter. If you’re the typical nice guy, you’re going to come off as a creep or lazy in the sack.

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Organize the Flakes

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The quote above vividly describes the current outbreak of flaking in the dating world. For those unfamiliar, flaking can be defined by the following actions:

Intentionally ignoring texts/calls
Last-minute date cancellations
Lack of commitment to meeting

Each girl feels as though her act of flaking is a harmless manoeuvre, with no real consequence or damage created. Unfortunately, each girl contributing their flaky behaviour has snowballed, resulting in daily avalanches. It is now socially acceptable for women to flake with absolutely no repercussion.

Granted, there are many valid reasons to flake on a guy. After all, many men really have no idea how to communicate with the opposite sex. The flakes discussed within this article are the young ladies that have a steady following of men and have a choke-hold of their dating market. It does not describe women who are uninterested, consider you a friend, or are actually attracted to you.

It is difficult to predict, understand, and/or relate to flaking from a male standpoint. This leaves only “prevention” as a possible solution to the epidemic that technology and sexual liberation has brought upon us.

Organising your contacts in your phone based on flaking behaviour is valuable for a few reasons:

#1. First of all, your subconscious mind will be prepared. You have named her “Flake Amanda” which will remind you of her past behaviour, assisting in how you choose to respond when a message/call comes in.

#2. When scrolling through your contact list on a Friday night, you won’t even bother contacting the girls with the first name “Flake”. Why set yourself up for rejection while providing them with an ego boost?

#3. You have something to show her if you run into her. This tactic is cheap and childish, but so is flaking. At some point in the conversation, show her the list of girls you have in your ” Flake File” and point her out. Women think that they’re all unique and special; showing her that she’s just the same as every other 20-something robs her of that distinction. Don’t be an asshole about it – be cool, nonchalant, and careless.

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#4. Creating this list will motivate you to go out and replace flakes that have made the list. Knowing that you will no longer communicate with her may light that fire under your ass to ask for numbers.

#5. It is a step in the right direction in terms of communication and efficiency. This isn’t the solution to worldwide flakes, but you’ll find yourself dealing with less bitch behaviour and moving on much quicker.

This form of prevention works and will be of benefit to anyone dealing with constant flaking.

Has She Given You a Personalised Ring Tone?

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We all know about custom or personalised ring tones that we use to organize our contact list – it certainly isn’t something new. The question, however, is if YOU have a special ring when your messages are received by her.

As a few of us gathered for drinks at my FWB’s place, an interesting sound rung through the room during one of those quiet moments: a hissing rattlesnake. Brief laughter followed and then the explanation: my FWB’s ex-boyfriend was contacting her. This got me thinking… what’s my ring tone?

Although not as powerful as the senses of sight, smell, taste, or touch, the association placed on sound can spark memories or change moods. These simple noises can cause or deter a girl from responding to your text messages on a subconscious level. It’s safe to say that you want a positive ring tone attached to your name.

After a few minutes of pondering, I gracefully sent a message to Hollie in an attempt to withdraw the information I wanted. Here are a few inconspicuous ways to send a text message while in the same room, without creeping her out:

1. Send a blank message “by accident”
2. Send a funny pic/gif/video
3. Attach a link to an article she’d be interested in

Make sure that you’re within earshot of her phone so you can capture the sound that she attributes to your name.

I was flattered when my test was performed: not only did Hollie ignore the hissing rattlesnake and instinctively avoid her phone, she reached for her cell almost instantly when she heard my text. Her body language literally changed in response to the specific ringtone set for me (a happy, upbeat song).

I conducted a social experiment over the course of the next few days on five girls that I’m currently seeing. The results were not worthy of a Harvard study, but is worth checking out on the girl(s) you’re interested in. I am in different stages with all of these young women, and was able to draw a few conclusions below. Listen to see if she has a variety of sounds, which signifies that she does organize her contact list. Facebook, Tinder, Email, etc have their own custom notifications, adding difficulty to the experiment.

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Phone is on Silent
Likely:
•She has other guys chasing her and is avoiding conflict with you, playing game on them, and hiding something. Note: if this is your LTR girlfriend and her phone is always on silent, she’s cheating.

Possibly:
•She respects you enough that she is committing her full attention to the time spent with you.

Unlikely:
•She forgot to turn on volume

Ring Tone that came with Phone
Likely:
• You’re not important enough yet to be categorized.

Possibly:
•She doesn’t organize her contact list

Unlikely:
•That this article applies to you

Custom Ringtone
Likely:
•You’ve been organized and now need to find out in what category. Did you meet over Tinder? Because all the other Tinder guys get that sound. Are you falling into the Friend Zone? If your ringtone is the same as her BFF, you’ve got problems.

Possibly:
•She likes you and has done something to differentiate you from other contacts.

Unlikely:
•That she did this by accident

Personalised Ringtone (Special Sound)
Likely:
•She’s attracted in one way or another. You now need to find out if there are other guys with the same ringtone

Possibly:
•If the ringtone is personalised with something special between the two of you, she’s falling for you. If it is something lame, like R2D2 from Star Wars, you may be going in the wrong direction.

Unlikely:
•That you’re competing with many other men
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The important thing to take from all of this is getting a personalised ringtone. After sending my blank text, pic, or article, I began negging all five girls over their choice of ringtone that they had given me (whether they gave me one or not). It was fun and playful, led to flirting, and concluded with me getting exactly what I wanted: a ringtone that will stimulate the desire to pick up her phone and respond to me.

Come up with a few sexy ringtones and get it attached to your name. I’m already being rewarded by enacting this change and you’ll see the difference too.

The Unspoken Golden Rule of Dating

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I stumbled upon a “golden rule” of dating that women apply that not only caught my attention, but blew my mind when I realized the truth behind it. As men, we often neglect to view the world from other perspectives and are oblivious to some of the tactics used by the opposite sex.

This is the unspoken fact that modern women can count on: “One of the Golden Rules of dating is that you can always fuck a hotter guy than you can get a commitment from.”

The simplicity behind it is amazing. At the same time, the information is gut wrenching.

I need not dig into this golden rule; knowing that it is an element of dating and relationships is valuable enough.

In an effort to uncover more of these “golden rules”, I scoured the internet for women’s dating advice. Here is the unedited collection of advice that female pick-up artists have passed along through websites, blogs, etc. to the girls of this generation.

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DATING
Only put in 30% effort.

Make him come to you. This is especially true for the first few dates. If you go to his house on the first date instead of him coming to pick you up, I have two words for you, Booty Call.

You should not accept a date on Wednesday or Thursday for that weekend. You are a busy woman.

Let your man pay. If he is interested, he is interested enough to ensure you eat well and get home safely in a cab.

Always keep a guy waiting and never turn up early. It is a lady’s prerogative.

If he is available Tuesday, you are available Thursday.

Dating one man at a time, will only allow you to find one loser at time

Avoid two things in life: cheap shoes and cheap men

Be a Responder, not a Hunter. Hunters are men. You are not a man.

Busy is just “Busy”– don’t explain. Be happy and aloof when explaining that you are busy for the night.

Never be available when he wants you to be.

Use pet names such as “honey” or “sweetheart” to avoid mixing up their names when dating multiple guys.

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SEX
Want to hook up? Do it.

Never ever sleep with a guy until he has fallen for you.

When on vacation, slut it up hardcore if you know you never have to see him again

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CELL
Never return a call or text immediately.  Remember, you are busy, busy, busy.

Wait at least four hours to answer a text

Don’t answer after midnight

Always respond with fewer words than he’s texted to you.

Wait 24 to 48 hours to confirm a friend request from him and NEVER write on his wall or ‘like’ his status updates.

Never be at the end of a phone when he calls and always let him leave a message or two first before replying.
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 Granted, not all women will take these tidbits of advice to heart, nor will they apply them to every single man. The female sex does use “game”, just like we do though.

I am, however, hoping to discover more of these unspoken golden rules that exist. If you know of any, please add them to the comments to assist other young men that are on the journey. As one website wrote: “Just like with children who will tell you they don’t want rules, men function much better and are happier with them.”

Pfft, yeah…