Leaving Your Hometown for a Better Life

When life gets tough, you can sit and hammer it out or you can leave completely. This article will provide the blueprint to packing your bags, uprooting your life, and starting over. So, how do you hit the reset button?

Evaluate
Analysing your situations, possible outcomes, and potential gains/losses should lead you to your conclusion. This may take several days and require the use of an excel spreadsheet or writing it all down. Then ask yourself a few questions:

Can I solve all of these?

How much time, energy, and money will the solutions cost?

Will it make me happier?

You may find that standing up and fighting the issues in your life will suit you. If you discover that going to war against your problems is a fruitless venture, it is time to plan your escape.

Focus
Now that you’ve made an educated decision, you must focus on your new plan. Fear and lack of commitment are the reasons that men stay in unhappy conditions – not money or relationships.

This is a dual-part effort on your behalf: concentrate on your goals while slowly removing yourself from the people, places, and things that will have no value once you’ve left.

Visualize everything: packing your belongings, your new career, the goodbyes, boarding the plane or train, arriving at your destination, and exploring your new city. Think about these moments frequently – daydream about how good it will feel to start fresh. Keep yourself on track with your new plan by staying focused.

Withdraw from everything that does not have an impact on your future goals.

Research

Take the time to investigate multiple cities in regard to a few things:

• Career prospects
• Forecasted growth
• Rental or housing prices
• Cost of living
• The women living there

All of this information is easily obtained from Google searches.

Calculate risks
There are uncertainties that you must consider and plan for:

• Tax differences in a new state or province
• Climate changes that can affect your body (allergies, skin conditions, etc)
• Weather patterns/dangers that may interrupt your work schedule

Moving to a new city also means that it is time to review your will; this is of utmost importance should something terrible occur.

Burn Bridges
As described in Sun Tzu’s miraculous text The Art of War, “When your army has crossed the border, you should burn your boats and bridges, in order to make it clear to everybody that you have no hankering after home.”

As a self-motivation tactic, burning bridges with people can be valuable in your drive forward. If they’ve proven to be more of an obstacle to your success than an ally, it may be best to abruptly end the “friendship” with some well chosen words. My personal favourite is “I no longer respect you as a person” as it ends the relationship in a concrete, unquestionable fashion.

Sell Your Assets
To further promote your commitment and motivation, sell those assets that you cannot bring with you on your journey. Why pay for storage for items that you’re not suppose to come back to anyway? It may be difficult or even crushing to part with some of your belongings, but it must be done.

Exit Strategy

You must include a contingency plan in your scheme in the event that your objectives are not met. You need to prepare for outcomes that cannot be foreseen and be confident that the back up plan is an acceptable alternative.

*** I moved 3,600km from my hometown in February 2015. I have literally doubled my income, have a stronger network of friends, and am enjoying my life in ways not possible in my previous location. It takes a solid plan to achieve your goals.

Where to Meet Women During the Day

Approaching, meeting, and conversing with new women during the day is, for some cruel reason, extremely difficult for the majority of single men. Often referred to as “Day Game”, it is a necessary artistry that must be practised and perfected by the modern male in order to connect with quality women.

Typical dating advice columns will offer ridiculous locations and events to visit: dancing lessons, cooking classes, yoga, etc. It shouldn’t be necessary to commit to a program unless you’re actually interested in learning something new. Do not join these seminars or teachings in an attempt to meet new women.

A routine that I follow once every week or two provides me with enough opportunity to meet great new girls while performing daily errands.

Gas Station

I start my routine by doing what we all have to do: get gasoline. When I drive into the station, I quickly check the pumps for attractive women.

If there is a young lady that has caught my eye, I will park at one of the pumps near her. If possible, I will strike up conversation. If conversation cannot be opened up, I will finish pumping my gas when she does so I can walk into the building with her or in front of her. This gives me the opportunity to open the door for her – force eye contact, deliver your sly smile, and respond to her appropriately when she comments about opening the door.

On most occasions, there are no women that catch my eye (the particular city I live has a low population of attractive women). I ensure a pleasant visit to the gas station by only going to ones that employ good looking staff, with whom I build positive rapport with. I’ve gone on some amazing dates with gas station attendants and enjoy practising my seduction skills with them.

Cost of gas = $10

Grocery Store

The first thing I do when I enter the grocery store is head to the floral department. Slowly, calmly, I select my arrangement with the help of a florist. A few notes about selecting flowers:

• Avoid roses – so cliche
• No need to spend over $20
• Pick bright, eye-catching colours

I purchase flowers for my daughter because I enjoy seeing her face light up every time I bring them. She also loves gardening and learning about botany, so there is educational value with each experience. If you don’t have a girl to buy flowers for, buy the flowers for your mother and make sure you have a true story to go along with it.

Once I have the flowers in hand, I stroll the grocery store. The bright bouquet contrasts my rugged physical appearance; ripped rockstar jeans, clean leather jacket, and polished shoes.

There are few things that attract a woman’s eye the way a bouquet of flowers does. You will be surprised at the number of glances you receive as you stroll through the aisles picking up your dinner ingredients. You can literally see the curiosity and attraction immediately develop.

Opportunity will present itself in some fashion and you must be prepared. Be sure to have a crafty response when questioned “who are those for?”

Cost of flowers = $11

Liquor Store

My favourite place to strike up conversation is in the aisles of the liquor store. Select upper scale stores located in busy parts of your city; avoid dumpy or unpopular retailers.

I have found liquor stores to be the easiest place to start friendly dialogue, practice flirty behaviour, and set up dates. Bring your fresh bouquet of flowers in with you to help draw a bit of attention to yourself.

Cost of bottle of wine = $9

Book Store

My final stop before going home or hitting the gym is at a book store. Again, I may have the flowers in my hand while browsing the shelves.

Beginning casual conversation with a quality woman is simple and easygoing – there are plenty of topics that you can discuss when surrounded by so many books. Making eye contact here is
effortless as well.

Cost of a trendy magazine = $5

That sums up my day game approach. At no point am I harassing any of these women or coming off as creepy. I’m simply running regular errands with a bit of a strategy and doing so for around $35.

Going for the New Years Kiss

With New Years Eve fast approaching, an article regarding the big day seems not only worthy, but necessary.

It is a strong desire in both sexes that we ring in the new year with the people we are happiest with. Whether it be our boyfriends, girlfriends, lovers, husbands, wives, or crushes, we feel a deep need to spend the evening with them.

New Years Eve can be a struggling time for single men, however, as we chase our crush during an event-filled Christmas season. With so many holiday commitments and financial obligations, solidifying the plan with the girl you want to be with can be a painful endeavour.

Aside from time restraints due to family functions (lower bonding and seduction opportunities) and decreased funds attributed to excessive spending, the most critical part of setting up your NYE date with her will be this: alternatives.

Some single men will have a plethora of New Years destinations available to them; all single women will have this abundance of invitations. Depending on the number of men attempting to court your young lady, her options are quite open.

If you haven’t begun to do so, you need to express your interest in spending this important night with her. In doing so, you must find out what kind of event she wants to attend. A few important questions:

• House party, gala event, or club?
• With close friends, acquaintances, new people, family, or a small group?
• What kind of outfit does she want to wear or has already purchased?

The answers to these questions will help you attract her to the venue that she envisions. If you don’t already know this, her outfit of choice is an extremely vital indicator of what she wants to do.

Once you’ve established the way in which she hopes to spend the night, you must use your research skills to find a special place and use your social network to see who may join you. Once a variety of options are potential possibilities, contact her with your game plan. Remember: you need to make the decisions and plans for the entire evening. No Plan = No Date because men are expected to have their shit together. Your competing males will probably not think far enough ahead to consider a safe ride home (you, taxi, limo, friends, etc) and appropriate sleeping arrangements, so make sure this is presented in your plan.

If the young lady appears interested or welcomes any type of invitation, you are on a good path. Avoid seeing this as a concrete night together unless all signs point to such, as many women in today’s dating world feel free to flake out if a better opportunity comes about. If her responses to your invitation do not seem optimistic, she has a NYE plan that doesn’t involve you, so you may as well give up now.

The New Years Eve Kiss at Midnight

As I reflect on my failures and successes of 2014, I am able to recognize that the first 24 hours of the previous new year had a great impact on my life.

You see, I had managed to get a beautiful young woman I had been crushing on to join myself and another couple to celebrate the night. The tickets were purchased, a decent hotel was booked, and everything had been arranged. We had a spectacular evening – the drinks were plentiful, the dancefloor rocked, and our interactions were playful. I brought failure and disappointment as the clock struck zero…when I kissed her on the cheek.

I got nervous (fuck, I was nervous the whole night) and rather than risk rejection, kissed her politely on the cheek. The way she would’ve felt this was weakness – I did not go after what I wanted. We spent the remainder of the evening as “friends”, even though that was not what we came as.

Do not make the same mistake that I made. If you have googled ” should I kiss her on New Years Eve” and landed here, then this is your answer: she has decided to spend New Years with you, so yes, go for the kiss.

For future events of this nature, do what athletes do when they play big games: visualize. Try to predict where you will be, what the environment will look like, and what her body language says in those dying seconds of the year.

Go for the Kiss on New Years Eve

Being Aware of Hypergamy – Part 2

Definition:

hypergamy (haɪˈpɜːɡəmɪ)

1. (Anthropology & Ethnology) a custom that forbids a woman to marry a man of lower social status
2. (Anthropology & Ethnology) any marriage with a partner of higher social status

The easiest way to understand hypergamy is too view it as a consistent drive to upgrade to the most desirable relationship.

The traditional definition describes the occurrence in terms of marriage; due to changes in the dating world for those of us in the 21st century, consider its application for modern day relationships.

Although the term is directly associated with monetary value of the potential spouse/mate, hypergamy stretches beyond income and assets. In the western world, a woman is able to discard her current mate to secure a relationship with a male of higher status whenever such opportunity arises. The evolutionary psychology behind this theory is that a female must find a male with the best ability to provide for her offspring, regardless of investments and commitments made to her current boyfriend/fiancé/husband.

Whether the new man has:
A – the current/potential resources that will provide for her (aka the “nice guy”)
B – the ability to take resources from
others (aka the ” bad boy”)
this woman, of any age, can leave her partner with no guilt or consequence.

When a wife cheats, you rarely see her leave for someone of lower status. When a relationship ends, the next boyfriend is typically an improvement over the previous.

I completely support this strategy behind mating. Although it is not widely accepted as a true model (some relationship experts and modern feminists cast their doubts upon its existence), hypergamy presents frequently upon this generation and I understand why women would use it, notwithstanding the fact that it may be a subconscious manoeuvre. In all reality, who doesn’t want the best possible life partner?

This constant drive to upgrade to a better man, however, leaves behind many disgruntled, confused, and heartbroken males, who often feel emasculated several years after the event occurred.

So…How Can Hypergamy Help Men?

It is up to men to strive to improve. At no point can we become stagnant in our personal development… hypergamy has the potential to creep in if we allow it to. Our girlfriend/wife/lover will feel forced to abandon us for a man that can be a “better provider” for her. This means that hypergamy has an underlying benefit: it should force men to invest in themselves.

The Red Pill has become a necessary male reflex to changes in social dynamics. Our “Self-Improvement Movements” are an excellent defence against hypergamy because you will prove to yourself and to your lover that you are the most valuable man available.

Being Aware of Hypergamy – Part One

Hypergamy is a frequently discussed topic among the Manosphere. For those unfamiliar, here is the Wikipedia definition:

Hypergamy (colloquially referred to as “marrying up“) is the act or practice of marrying someone wealthier, or of higher caste or status than oneself. Although the term is not gendered, it is generally used by social scientists to refer to women marrying higher-status men, rather than to men marrying higher-status women.

Although frowned upon by many men and women (sometimes causing outright anger), it is a common occurrence across the globe. Being aware of hypergamy will have a positive effect on your self-improvement goals and your overall dating life.

Through the summer of 2014, I had numerous relationships with some truly wonderful women. To recall, here is a quick rundown of where I was at that point in time:

• I had no job and was not in school
• I had moved back to my parents’
• I outcasted myself from old friends
• I was partying like a rockstar
• I was completely irresponsible

In all reality, I had nothing to offer a potential mate: no security, income, or assets that would be appealing for any type of long-term relationship. My physical appearance was, however, above average and included sexually-inspired clothing, a dedicated fitness routine, and proper grooming.

Regardless of all the negative qualities, I met new women of higher social status on a weekly basis and, remarkably, was able to maintain outstanding “Friends With Benefits” bonds. Three of these women owned their own home, most had their own car, and they all held important positions within their careers. Although I didn’t marry any of these women, I used hypergamy and its core structure as a dating tool to get with high status women. Keep in mind, I wasn’t very high up the totem pole.

During our encounters, my gas was usually paid for (I always drove) and bottles of wine or vodka supplied before going out. More often than not, the girls also purchased drinks for me. In essence, there was a complete role-reversal within my dating world.

How did I do this?

Women are getting bored. They are getting bored with today’s “man”. Most of the men they meet are unimpressive and uninteresting.
* If any female readers disagree with the above statement, please comment.

In exchange for gasoline and alcohol I provided excitement and mind-blowing sex. That is it.

Between the Nurse, the Executive Assistant, and the Store Manager, they all wanted one thing: exhilaration. They craved the thrills of the evening and anticipation of orgasmic sex. And how could I blame them? They slaved for hours on end in their careers and came home to Netflix marathons or boring Tinder dates. I would steal her on a Wednesday after work, get tipsy at her place, tease her mind and body, and then take her somewhere she had never been, thus making her wait even longer for the sexual experience she desired from me.

In the following articles, I will discuss the advantages and disadvantages of hypergamy as they apply to men.

Red Pill Loneliness: Anniversaries and Other Important Dates

November 5th will be forever scarred and permanently emblazed into my memory bank: that was the day I discovered the “love of my life” was cheating. This past November 5th marked the one year anniversary of her infidelity and I struggled through the day. This was not the first anniversary gone by without her (birthdays, special dates, etc) , but was the most painful. It was the most painful because I feel I should have completely let go by now – to be free of the negative emotions I have of her. That, however, is not the case: I still think about her every day and I do not know why.

Getting through those “anniversaries” has been an excellent learning device. I have utilised several tricks, tools, and techniques to ensure I fall asleep with a smile, rather than harbouring sadness through the course of the day.

You Know the Day is Approaching
The days leading up to that dreaded anniversary are the most excruciating. Wondering what she’s doing, if she’s happier than you, and if she’s going to have a better time on your anniversary (without you) are constant questions. You may wonder if she even cares or remembers that a special day is coming up.

Fight these feelings with logic. What are YOU doing properly? What are YOU going to do to make yourself happy? What are YOU going to do on that day?

I knew a week in advance how I was going to spend the day. I called them “Me Days” where I did whatever the hell I wanted. I had a plan and I stuck with it.

Avoid Excessive Alcohol Consumption
If this is truly a day of torture and torment, do not add alcohol to the mix. There are plenty of events/outings that you can take part in without including booze. An alcohol ban may be part of your plan.

Plan Your “Me Day”
Start by asking yourself this question: do I even want to wake up for this shit? Take the day off work or school (give them a few days notice) and sleep in. Cutting those extra 3-4 hours out of the day means you have less time to think about her.

Regardless if I went to work or not, the first thing I would do was scour YouTube and Songza for new music and burn myself a CD for the car (yeah, those old shiny circular things).

My “Me Day” always consisted of two fitness activities and some great food. I would hit the gym solo and have arrangements with friends for floor hockey, rock climbing, or rollerblading. Afterward, we would either cook a feast or head out to eat.

At this point, I would often have a female join for the remainder of the evening. If I had a girl with me that night, I was allowed to drink; If I was by myself or just with the guys, no alcohol.

This is what worked for me to drown out thoughts/images/memories of her. If you’re having trouble with an approaching special date, plan your Me Day and fill it with whatever you want.

The Red Pill and True Love

An excellent article was written this week in the Business Insider by Emily Smith regarding the scientific equation to true love; Here is the link. I highly recommend digging into it on your own, but have cut several points out to discuss further, as the information is quite valuable.

Of all the people who get married, only three in ten remain in healthy, happy marriages, as psychologist Ty Tashiro points out in his book “The Science of Happily Ever After,” which was published earlier this year.

This statistic did surprise me initially – I had always assumed more couples live in a happy state. We struggle to find a compatible mate, investing a great part of ourselves into finding and developing a meaningful bond. I would expect more than half of those yearning for love to commit to each other on a daily basis, but have discovered in my own pursuit of happiness, that this is not necessarily the case. Suffice to say, the infidelity that exists in this generation is only growing.

Social scientists first started studying marriages by observing them in action in the 1970s in response to a crisis: Married couples were divorcing at unprecedented rates. Worried about the impact these divorces would have on the children of the broken marriages, psychologists decided to cast their scientific net on couples, bringing them into the lab to observe them and determine what the ingredients of a healthy, lasting relationship were.

Psychologist John Gottman was one of those researchers. For the past four decades, he has studied thousands of couples in a quest to figure out what makes relationships work. 

…In 1990, he designed a lab on the University of Washington campus to look like a beautiful bed and breakfast retreat.

He invited 130 newlywed couples to spend the day at this retreat and watched them as they did what couples normally do on vacation: cook, clean, listen to music, eat, chat, and hang out. And Gottman made a critical discovery in this study — one that gets at the heart of why some relationships thrive while others languish.

The information that follows is vital to your current or future relationship. It does not matter if you’re rich or poor, male or female, or heterosexual or homosexual. Upon reading this, flashbacks of your past relationships will flow through your mind as you identify with the research and make connection to failure/success.

Throughout the day, partners would make requests for connection, what Gottman calls “bids.” For example, say that the husband is a bird enthusiast and notices a goldfinch fly across the yard. He might say to his wife, “Look at that beautiful bird outside!” He’s not just commenting on the bird here: he’s requesting a response from his wife — a sign of interest or support — hoping they’ll connect, however momentarily, over the bird.

The wife now has a choice. She can respond by either “turning toward” or “turning away” from her husband, as Gottman puts it. Though the bird-bid might seem minor and silly, it can actually reveal a lot about the health of the relationship. The husband thought the bird was important enough to bring it up in conversation and the question is whether his wife recognizes and respects that.

People who turned toward their partners in the study responded by engaging the bidder, showing interest and support in the bid. Those who didn’t — those who turned away — would not respond or respond minimally and continue doing whatever they were doing, like watching TV or reading the paper. Sometimes they would respond with overt hostility, saying something like, “Stop interrupting me, I’m reading.”

These bidding interactions had profound effects on marital well-being. Couples who had divorced after a six-year follow up had “turn-toward bids” 33 percent of the time. Only three in ten of their bids for emotional connection were met with intimacy. The couples who were still together after six years had “turn-toward bids” 87 percent of the time. Nine times out of ten, they were meeting their partner’s emotional needs.

In that moment, the easy response may be to turn away from your partner and focus on your iPad or your book or the television, to mumble “Uh huh” and move on with your life, but neglecting small moments of emotional connection will slowly wear away at your relationship. Neglect creates distance between partners and breeds resentment in the one who is being ignored.

I recognize and relate to it so well that it was startling; both great and poor relationships with past girlfriends came to mind when recalling this equation. In future relationships (short-term and long-term), I will pay attention to these “bids” in an attempt to satisfy my partner and to monitor her feelings toward me – I suggest that you do the same.

Red Pill Loneliness: Cooking for One

In the third installment of Red Pill Loneliness, I would like to discuss a method of cooking that helped to empower my masculinity, brought healthy food to my table, and killed countless hours of depression.

Any man will experience some degree of loneliness or boredom through the course of a given week. Having these quiet breaks of time are an opportunity – get up and do something with it.

The Charcoal Grill

Knowing how to cook over fire was necessary for human survival up until the 20th century. The pleasures of grilling are surreal and will teach you the fundamentals of healthy cooking. You can pick up a cheap charcoal for $40 or you can spoil yourself with some of the deluxe models that hit the $300+ mark.

History of the Charcoal Grill
In 1952, a gentleman named George Stephen Sr. was working at Weber Brothers Metal Works in Chicago. The factory manufactured marine buoys. George came up with an idea for a better grill to replace the problematic outdoor BBQs that filled American backyards at the time. His invention: a dome-shaped grill with vents, covered by a lid to protect food from the elements.

George Stephen cut a buoy in half, added the air vents, legs,handles, and grilling plate. His invention would spark a backyard revolution.

With winter fast approaching, I highly recommend researching this amazing device. Lets look at the Pros and Cons:

CONS
There are a few downsides to charcoal grilling, the first being time. It can take up to half an hour to get the grill up to temperature. Even after the appropriate heat has been reached, the cooking/smoking process is far greater than propane, gas, or oven cooking.

Unattended, it is quite easy to have a flair up, thus burning your food.

Charcoal is more expensive (at least in Canada) per individual meal. The cost of the charcoal, wood chips, and lighter fluid or chimney, adds up to slightly more than a $30 propane tank and does not produce as many BBQ events.

Because the concept behind charcoal grilling involves smoke, you may find that “fire” scent on your clothes.

PROS
The additional time required to prepare and cook the meals can be fun. Experimenting with different wood chips, meats, veggies, seasonings, and marinades is a joy.

Friends and family will drop in any time you mention you’re having a BBQ. If you’re looking for more social time in the comfort of your own home, a charcoal grill will help.

Glowing coals are at a temperature of about 1,100 degrees Celsius; while gas burns at around 1,900 degrees Celsius, there’s very little radiant heat from the flames. The heat produced from your charcoal makes grilling during a snowfall a relaxing experience.

The aroma created from a charcoal grill or smoker is simply amazing. Your BBQ will ooze with lip-smacking smells, letting a small neighbourhood know that you’ve lit your BBQ.

You cannot compare the flavour of the food to any other type of BBQ. I hated cooking before I purchased my first grill. Now, I can bring a beer-can chicken, filet Mignon, or cedar plank salmon to the table and impress any woman. And the time it takes to cook allows for some fun flirting in between!

Red Pill Loneliness: Forming Friendships with Alpha Males

In the previous article “Red Pill Loneliness“, we acknowledge that isolation occurs with change. The decision to “unplug” and take the Red Pill has consequences, one of which includes losing friends.

Building a new network can be a tiresome venture, but the investment pays off. Having alpha male friends rather than betas will surely change your life in a positive way.

It has taken me an entire year to do it, but I now have three best friends that consistently display alpha traits. Here are the pros and cons of having this type of man as a friend:

PROS
Your dedication to the gym, fitness activities, and sports will increase. You may or may not partake in these events with the Alpha male, but your athletic goals will be pushed.

You will eat healthier and learn to cook some interesting dishes because these men take care of their bodies

You will meet new women. Alpha men will approach and their natural charisma will provide you with opportunities.

More women will approach you and your group. Girls will be drawn in to the dominant male(s) in any room.

You will feel more masculine. Your body language will change, your self-esteem will improve, and your communication style will adapt.

You don’t have to worry about a true Alpha male fucking your girlfriend or cockblocking you. They can get their own pussy.

CONS
You will still experience loneliness due to the fact that Alpha men live busy lives. Between lists of responsibilities, partying, and gym time, they will not always be available.

Because Alpha men are frequently out on the town, you will find yourself spending more money.

Although Alpha men are admired in many social circles, they have a knack for making enemies, sparking jealousy, and making others angry.

Alpha males won’t put up with your shit. If you start to fail or fizzle out, don’t expect them to carry you for too long. If you screw them, you can be sure they’ll drop you permanently from their friends list.

How Do You Meet Alpha Males?
Simple. That guy in the room that’s getting all the positive attention and commands respect? That’s him. I find that their are only a few ways to connect with these types of men:

1. Find a common enemy. This may prove difficult, but this type of bond is concrete.

2. Share a story about the girl that broke your heart and how you’ve overcome it. These men have fallen in love too; this discussion will show his weaker, empathetic side.

3. Talk about your gym schedules, routines, etc.

Bonding with these stronger men may be intimidating at first. Drop the beta behaviour and go get a top tier friend.

Red Pill Loneliness

Several posts across the Manosphere have popped up in recent weeks regarding Red Pill Men and former Betas experiencing a sense of loneliness. Hearing that other men are experiencing similar “set backs” should provide an amount of encouragement to all of those concerned with the issue.

A series of articles regarding this temporary loneliness will be released to assist your transition into the Red Pill world.

The isolation that you are feeling is normal. When drastic change occurs in personal or business arenas, unforeseen events are a certainty that quite simply cannot be prepared for. In terms of becoming an alpha male, we do not expect a negative hit on our social life. Yet here you are reading about it.

One day, something bad happened to you. Something really fucken bad. This event was so negative that it completely fucked you up. Maybe it was a girl, maybe it was a job, or maybe it was a lifelong goal… now you’re fucked up for life. That is how you found the Red Pill. That is how you stumbled into the Manosphere. That is how you brought yourself to make a change.

One of the first things that you realize after a few doses of Red Pill is that men are weak. One of the most difficult processes of your development will be cutting these weak men, your Beta Male friends, from your life or limiting time spent with them.

How do you spot a Beta Male in a social circle?

#1 The Desperate Desperado
∆ He’s the guy that still talks to your ex girlfriend
∆ He’s the guy saddling up to your girl when you leave the room
∆ He’s the guy clinging onto any female that provides him with attention
∆ He’s the guy talking shit to girls, but smiling to your face
∆He’s the guy that counts on you to meet any new women

#2 The Popularly Unpopular
∆He’s the guy that starts and runs the NBA, NFL, and NHL fantasy leagues
∆He’s the guy that organizes frequent poker nights “with the guys”
∆He’s the guy that orders pizza or fast food more than twice per week
∆He’s the guy that knows more social retards than you care to count
∆He’s the guy you actually like, but his friends are an embarrassment

#3 The Intellectual Idiot
∆ He’s the guy that will quote info from the internet to prove you wrong
∆ He’s the guy that flew through college or university but doesn’t know girls
∆ He’s the guy that is so good with his money, he’ll screw you to save a buck
∆ He’s the guy that thinks money and materials are the key to happiness
∆ He’s the guy that gets jealous when you meet new women

There are other types of Beta Males, but the ones described above will hurt you. Minimize the time spent with these guys. Doing so does create a degree of loneliness, but you can’t drive toward your goals with any flat tires.

Next up: Forming Friendships with Other Alpha Males